When you are in a deaf and dumb relationship.

EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION.

Am affair that lacks effective communication is a deaf and dumb affair.

Do you know that communication is the only prerequisite for any long lasting union? YES after you have established a romantic affair,the next stage is getting to understand each other which can only be achieved through effective communication and not mind-reading.With good communication, you will know in a timely manner if you can tolerate each other.

Every break in any form of union starts with a break down of communication. And worst still, delayed communication.

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This is the case with many union today, we tend to stomach issues that would have been discussed and trashed out. There is no small or big issue, all issues must be treated with urgency. Don't be lackadaisical in expressing your resentments but communicate your pains sternly.

The worst part of it is that most of the time, the other party does not even have a clue if you are hurting so while you keep building up resentments, he/she will help you to add more until it becomes so big that before you say Jack, the union is broken beyond repair.And it gets even stranger when some people will rather prefer to discuss their partner's flaws with friends and would go on and on about what they hate in that person when that partner does not even have a clue of those faults

It could be an issue as trivial as the way your partner uses water, toothpaste,eating habit,relates with people, uses groceries in the house,the snoring habit, dress sense,abusive words,talkativeness or as serious as drunkenness, smoking,addiction of any kind,philandering and so on.

Even in sexual matters, you may like to be touched in a certain manner, made love to in a certain way,it may be a body odor from your partner or mouth odor.If he does not last long in bed please tell him to do something about it because you don't want to go out. If she is not good in bed tell her or teach her how you want it.

It can be anything and i mean anything at all. Don't shelve it, don't ignore that issue,TRASH IT OUT IMMEDIATELY and i mean real trashing in a serious but humble and loving manner.

If you allow that resentment to go undisclosed, you can be sure to have more and more every passing day until it becomes a great wall of permanent divide and when you stomach issues,it can accumulate so much that it may cause you to overeact which may lead to terrible consequence..

Don't be scared in discussing issues with your spouse because if you are afraid of doing this then i guess you should as well opt for a break because i don't see that union getting better. And if you are the type of man who is so bossy that you think women have no say then you are indeed a beast who deserves to be living alone in the jungle.

It is no longer news that tolerance is vital in any union we find ourselves because there is no perfect man or woman but nevertheless, we can always adjust and be the best we can for our partners if only we know the area that needs adjustment which can only be known by us if the other party opens up.

Lets learn to be communicative in a constructive and humane manner and we will realize how powerful this can be.

Hope this helps.